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Your first session

What happens in your first online EFT/tapping session?

You don’t need to know the tapping points or have the perfect words. Here’s what to expect, from your first enquiry to the end of your session.

Nicky · Fear to Here4 min read
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Perhaps you’ve been thinking about asking for help with a fear, but the idea of a first session brings questions of its own. What will you be asked? Will you need to know how tapping works? What if you find it difficult to explain how you feel?

You can arrive with those questions. An online EFT session with Fear to Here is a one-to-one conversation with Nicky, with guided tapping and time to check in together. You agree a starting point and a pace that feels manageable for you.

Before your session: a conversation first

The first step is an enquiry. You can say a little about what you’d like to explore, or simply ask a question. A short message is enough; keep detailed or sensitive health information for a private conversation.

Before booking, you and Nicky discuss suitability, availability and the practical details. A Fear to Here session costs £95 for 60 minutes, online and one-to-one. Your video platform, payment arrangements and cancellation terms are confirmed before you book. Completing the website enquiry form doesn’t book or charge you for a session.

You don’t need to prepare a long account of your fear. It can help to think about one everyday situation you’d like to feel more able to manage, such as booking a flight, driving somewhere unfamiliar or speaking in a meeting.

Getting ready for your online call

Choose a quiet, private place where you can sit comfortably and speak without being overheard. Check your internet connection and the video link or app you’ve agreed to use.

  • Set your phone, tablet or laptop somewhere stable so your hands are free.
  • Have a glass of water nearby and silence notifications if you can.
  • Allow a little time afterwards, rather than planning to rush straight into another commitment.
  • Make a note of any questions you’d like to ask.

You don’t need special equipment or previous experience of EFT. Join from a safe, stationary place; a session is never something to follow while driving or doing another activity that needs your attention.

During your session: talk, tap and check in

1. Choose a starting point together

You begin by talking about what has brought you to the session and what matters to you. “I’d love to visit my family, but I keep putting off booking the flight” is a useful starting point. You don’t need a perfect explanation or a particular label for your fear.

From there, you choose something specific and manageable to explore. For flying, that might be the thought of boarding, hearing the cabin doors close or anticipating the journey home. These are examples, rather than a script every session follows.

2. Follow Nicky’s tapping guidance

EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques and is often called “tapping”. It combines paying attention to a particular thought, feeling or situation with gently tapping points on your face and upper body.

Nicky demonstrates the points and guides the words while you tap on yourself. You can ask for a point to be shown again, say if the words don’t fit your experience, or ask to slow down. Knowing the sequence in advance isn’t a requirement.

If you’d like a little more background beforehand, visit What is EFT? for an introduction to the approach.

3. Notice what you’re experiencing

There are pauses to check in on the thoughts, feelings or sensations you notice. You can say if something feels different, feels the same, or is difficult to put into words. There’s no particular response you’re expected to produce.

You and Nicky use those check-ins to decide whether to continue with the same focus, adjust it or pause. Your first session is personal to you; it doesn’t have to follow someone else’s experience.

YOU HAVE A SAY THROUGHOUT

It’s okay to pause.

You can ask a question, change the focus or stop. You won’t be asked to board a plane, handle a spider or put yourself in the situation you fear during the call. You don’t need to push yourself into describing the most difficult moment.

At the end: decide on your next step

Towards the end, there is time to check how you’re feeling and discuss what comes next. You might have questions about further sessions or want time to reflect before making a decision.

Experiences and outcomes vary. A first session doesn’t come with a guaranteed result, and there is no fixed number of sessions that everyone needs. Any further work should be discussed with your own circumstances in mind.

EFT is a complementary approach. If a fear is affecting your daily life, a GP can help you explore treatment options and how different kinds of support may fit together. You can read more in the NHS information about phobias.

YOUR FIRST STEP CAN BE A QUESTION

Start where you are.

You don’t need to have everything worked out before getting in touch. Tell Nicky what you’d like to explore, or ask about anything that still feels unclear.

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